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We are so excited cause our BIG BULLY BUDDY meeting with Principal Patricia Kingsley and Superintendent Dr. Trudy T. Arriaga, is almost here!!!!!!!!!. Bully Buddies are about to spread to your school, fingers crossed!

Dr. Trudy T. Arriaga

Superintendentfor the Ventura Unified School District

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2010 report focuses on bullying and other at-risk behavior.

Wed, 27 Oct 2010 08:35:55 -0700

The Ethics of American Youth

2010 Report Card reveals high incidence of bullying and other at-risk behavior in high school

Every two years, Josephson Institute conducts a comprehensive survey of high school students across the country. This survey, called the Report Card on the Ethics of American Youth, measures their self-reported values, attitudes, and behavior.

The first installment of the 2010 report focuses on bullying and other at-risk behavior. It is based on survey data from over 40,000 high school students.

Previous survey reports

(select one) Ethics of American Youth: 2008 Ethics of American Youth: 2006 Ethics of American Youth: 2004 Ethics of American Youth: 2002 Ethics of American Youth: 2000 Ethics of American Youth: 1998 Youth Sports Survey: 2006 Youth Sports Survey: 2004

Read the 2010 report »
Parents: Take our bullying quiz »

The next installment of the 2010 Report Card on the Ethics of American Youthwill focus on honesty and integrity and will be released in the coming months.

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See how your students’ responses compare to the national average. Read more »

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Teachers On Notice for Bullying

Wed, 27 Oct 2010 08:32:00 -0700

October 26, 2010Teachers On Notice for BullyingPosted: 12:09 PM ET

50% of students say they have bullied other kids.

47% of students say they’ve been the victim of bullying that seriously upset them.

And now teachers are on notice. According to a 10-page letter sent to thousands of school districts and universities, the Department of Education’s Office for Civil Rights wants to make sure that teachers and professors know that they could be held accountable for bullying under federal law.

To read the complete letter sent to teachers, click here.

To check out the latest survey done of teens on bullying from the Josephson Institute of Ethics, click here.

Christina Ginn - Producer

IF YOU SEE SOMETHING SAY SOMETHING.

Tue, 19 Oct 2010 11:34:00 -0700

IT IS TIME TO BE A BULLY BUDDY AND HELP STOP THE BULLY.

Hi, it’s me Hannah.

I wish I could tell you that bullying has come to an end but I can’t. I can’t even tell you that is has slowed down cause it hasn’t. I sit here hoping to say that I don’t get bullied anymore, but that would not be true. What I can say is that each one of us can help, and being a Bully Buddy can be as easy as seeing something then saying something.

P.S. I left the private note can in the office so feel free to drop your bully help info in there anytime.

We are Human and we need to be in this experience together.

Mon, 18 Oct 2010 21:02:33 -0700

We are Human and we need to be in this experience together.

What do you think?

Mon, 18 Oct 2010 20:59:00 -0700

Shocking! Bully Beatdown is fake

by Zak Woods on Apr 21, 2009 9:00 AM EDT

I knew there was something fishy about MTV’s Bully Beatdown.

The news comes from MMA TKO.

I spoke with a friend that helped with the production of the show and was told that most of the bully/victim combo had never even met prior to the taping of each episode.

Take bully Jon from the last episode with Jake Shields. Last year he was on the Fox TV show Battle of the Bods where Jonathan proclaimed to be a professional stuntman as he judged the bodies of young women.

Even though Bully Beatdown is filled with actors the fights are mostly real. The stuntmen do try to fight back against the Pro MMA fighters but their payday comes not from the 10,000 prize money offered up but from the money guaranteed on the contract they signed going into the fight.

Well this explains a lot.

My first big qualm with the show was that money was being exchanged for a fight. Shouldn’t the state athletic commission should be involved and what commission in their right mind will allow an untrained amateur to fight or spar with a professional for money? Well, maybe Texas.

The fact that the stuntmen are guaranteed money to fight further means that there must be some level of commission involvement, right?

But are we really surprised that a show on MTV is staged?

Bully News

Mon, 18 Oct 2010 20:53:00 -0700

By Candy PerezDodge City Daily Globe Posted Oct 18, 2010 @ 06:00 PM

DODGE CITY —

    Recently a campaign has been unleashed in the media against harassment between teens or children, better known as “bullying.”
   And no wonder. In recent months, six young people committed suicide, according to investigations, because they suffered from bullying, a type of abuse that seems to be endless.
   The victims took a drastic step, an irreparable one. But the truth is that these young people do not know what to do or where to go for help to deal with this problem that is destroying our children’s and mental health. That number could easily increase if we adults do not take this matter personally.
   Many bullies’ victims suffer in silence the physical and mental abuse of classmates who know nothing about respect and acceptance. It is up to us, the parents, to pay attention to signs that may tell us that a person is a victim of bullying or abuse. But we must also be alert to the indicators that could point out that we have a case of bullying in our house.
   The problem is further heightened because the harassment does not end when children return from school to their homes. Using a computer or cell phone, bullies continue their outrages by sending text messages or e-mails, further disrupting the lives of the victims of this inexcusable practice.
   This negative behavior is not new, and many victims of bullying and this type of abuse need psychological help for the rest of their lives to counter the fallout that can result from this pernicious behavior.
   A close relative, who was being bullied as a child, is an example of the permanent damage that this negative practice can cause.
   As a child — he is now 25 years old — this young man was shy and withdrawn. His parents thought that eventually he would change, and his behavior and conduct would be normal.
   However, years passed and the child showed little self-confidence and sensitivity to any comments about his person.
   During his adolescent years, he had the habit, as many adolescents do, of locking himself in his room, avoiding contact with the family. And his conversations were brief and ambiguous.
   His low self-esteem was evident. However, his parents did not accept the fact that their son had a problem. They thought it was just a temporary behavior.
   But it was not, and several incidents disclosed this. Some nervous breakdowns occurred, and finally reality hit them. Although they sought help immediately afterward, the problems continued on a greater scale.
   So much abuse can cause the victims to feel that their life has no future and life is not worth living.
   Self-esteem is the first thing out of the window, and it is one of the major things that changes when a person is constantly abused, deceived or pushed. So much so, that experts say that the victim begins to believe everything the bully says.
   The reasons that bullies use to harass or abuse a person are unfounded. These bullies do not have limits, and they know how to pick their victims. Once they do, they take advantage and seem to enjoy their boldness.
   Many kids make fun of others kids for stupid reasons — their weight, the way they dress, their color, ethnicity or sexual preference, among other reasons. No matter the reason, if bullies wants to demonstrate their power, they do it without thinking twice.
   It’s time to sit down and talk about this sensitive issue with our family members. What for some children is a game or a silly joke can lead to tragedy.
   Zero tolerance for bullying. There is no other choice.

My brother Samson Szakacsy’s “Room for us all”...

Mon, 18 Oct 2010 19:58:01 -0700

My brother Samson Szakacsy’s “Room for us all” song and video. Thanks Sam:)

2011 Bully Buddies are here for YOU!

Mon, 18 Oct 2010 19:07:00 -0700

2011 Bully Buddies are here for YOU!

Minnie handles her bully

Mon, 18 Oct 2010 19:01:35 -0700

Minnie Driver Confronts Childhood Bully

Filed under: Ellen DeGeneres > Minnie Driver

See?! It gets sooo much better that in time, you might find yourself telling off the person who once made you feel so bad about yourself in school! All in due time!

Minnie Driver is a stunning woman and an incredible actress, but even she at one point of her life was pushed around by someone. The actress was on Ellen DeGeneres’ show yesterday and she shared her own story of overcoming bullying as a pre-teen. She explained:

“I remember this new girl arrived when I was like nine years old, and I was completely happy at my school, very confident, and, for whatever reason, she decided that she needed to take me down, and for the next five years, just every single day repeatedly, it was just abusive and frightening. It wasn’t until I finally realized that I could fight back and I literally smacked her, it never happened again.”

Well, we can’t say we condone the violence part, but courage to stand up for yourself is still commendable

She then told Ellen that years later, she was able to confront the girl who tormeneted her in her youth at a party and what she learned from her was rather surprising. She reveals:

“She was there with her husband and her kids and I got the same kind of chilled fear in my stomach when I saw her… and after a couple of drinks I went over to her and I was like, ‘Can I just ask you, you remember everything that went on, right…? The systematic and repeated bullying that you inflicted on me.’ Her face went white and she looked like she was going to throw up or burst into tears, and I said, ‘Why did you do it?’ She said, ‘It was my identity… I was frightened of who you were - creative and loud and sort of gregarious - and my identity became stopping that and shutting that down in you because it was shut down in me.’ That minute, I realized that she was, in a way, as damaged by what she’d done as I had felt damaged myself. It was an interesting and good moment, but I don’t think everybody has that opportunity to face their aggressor later on.”

No, they surely don’t. We think if they did, they would encounter the same kind of thing you did - an adult who regrets their childhood immaturities and decisions.

We should always try and see the good in people, no matter who they are. You never know who they might turn out to be!

Just keep telling yourself - it gets better!

Bully News

Wed, 01 Sep 2010 09:08:53 -0700

Bullying & Anti-victimization

Bullying

Bullying is aggressive behavior that can be physical, verbal, or emotional. It can involve teasing, name-calling, pushing,

hitting or subtle behaviors such as intentionally ignoring or excluding someone or spreading nasty rumors. Bullying is

intended to cause distress or harm and exists where there is a real or perceived imbalance of power.

Advice for Kids

The key to helping kids is providing strategies that deal with bullying on an everyday basis and also help restore their self-

esteem and regain a sense of dignity.

It may be tempting to tell a kid to fight back. After all, you’re angry that your child is suffering and maybe you were told to

“stand up for yourself” when you were young. And you may worry that your child will continue to suffer at the hands of the

bully. But it’s important to advise kids not to respond to bullying by fighting or bullying back. It can quickly escalate into

violence, trouble, and someone getting injured. Instead, it’s best to walk away from the situation, hang out with others, and

tell an adult.

Here are some other strategies to discuss with kids that can help improve the situation and make them feel better:

• Avoid the bully and use the buddy system. Use a different bathroom if a bully is nearby and don’t go to your locke

when there is nobody around. Make sure you have someone with you so that you’re not alone with the bully. Buddy u

with a friend on the bus, in the hallways, or at recess — wherever the bully is. Offer to do the same for a friend.

• Hold the

anger. It’s natural to get upset by the bully, but that’s what bullies thrive on. It makes them feel more

10,

Practice ways to

get your

you about bullying — or has visible bruises or injuries — it can be difficult to figure out if it’s

ut there are some warning signs. You might notice your child acting differently or seeming anxious, or not eating,

usual,

you suspect bullying but your child is reluctant to open up, find opportunities to bring up the issue in a more roundabout

powerful. Practice not reacting by crying or looking red or upset. It takes a lot of practice, but it’s a useful skill for

keeping off of a bully’s radar. Sometimes kids find it useful to practice “cool down” strategies such as counting to

writing down their angry words, taking deep breaths or walking away. Sometimes the best thing to do is to teach kids

to wear a “poker face” until they are clear of any danger (smiling or laughing may provoke the bully).

• Act brave, walk away, and ignore the bully. Firmly and clearly tell the bully to stop, then walk away.

ignore the hurtful remarks, like acting uninterested or texting someone on your cell phone. By ignoring the bully, you’r

showing that you don’t care. Eventually, the bully will probably get bored with trying to bother you.

• Tell an adult. Teachers, principals, parents, and lunchroom personnel at school can all help stop bullying.

• Talk about it. Talk to someone you trust, such as your school counselor, teacher, sibling, or friend. They may off

some helpful suggestions, and even if they can’t fix the situation, it may help you feel a little less alone.

• Remove the incentives. If the bully is demanding your lunch money, start bringing your lunch. If he’s trying to

music player, don’t bring it to school

Advice for Parents

Unless your child tells

happening.

sleeping well, or doing the things that he or she usually enjoys. When kids seem moodier or more easily upset than

or when they start avoiding certain situations, like taking the bus to school, it may be because of a bully.

way. For instance, you might see a situation on a TV show and use it as a conversation starter, asking “What do you think

of this?” or “What do you think that person should have done?” This might lead to questions like: “Have you ever seen this

happen?” or “Have you ever experienced this?” You might want to talk about any experiences you or another family

member had at that age.

someone about it, whether it’s you, another adult (a teacher, school counselor, or family friend), or a sibling.

reluctant to tell adults about bullying. They feel embarrassed and ashamed that it’s happening. They worry that their

parents will be disappointed.

they’re scared that if the bully finds out that they told, it will get worse. Others are worried that their parents won’t believe

them or do anything about it. Or kids worry that their parents will urge them to fight back when they’re scared to.

bullied at some point. Emphasize that it’s the bully who is behaving badly — not your child. Reassure your child that you

will figure out what to do about it together.

sister she idolizes was teased about her braces and how she dealt with it. An older sibling or friend may also be able t

give you some perspective on what’s happening at school, or wherever the bullying is happening, and help you figure ou

the best solution.

the bully’s parents. Teachers or counselors are probably the best ones to contact first. If you’ve tried those methods and

still want to speak to the bullying child’s parents, it’s best to do so in a context where a school official, such as a counselo

can mediate.

You can report bul

form.

et your child know that if he or she is being bullied — or sees it happening to someone else — it’s important to talk to

your child tells you about a bully, focus on offering comfort and support, no matter how upset you are. Kids are often

ometimes kids feel like it’s their own fault, that if they looked or acted differently it wouldn’t be happening. Sometimes

raise your child for being brave enough to talk about it. Remind your child that he or she isn’t alone — a lot of people get

ometimes an older sibling or friend can help deal with the situation. It may help your daughter to hear how the older

ake it seriously if you hear that the bullying will get worse if the bully finds out that your child told. You may want to talk to

eport Bullying

lying on-line from your campus hompage. In the Campus folder select Report-a-Bully and complete the

ther Website Links for Bullying/Anti-victimization

http://kidshealth.org/kid/grow/school_stuff/bullies.html (Also in Spanish)

http://pbskids.org/itsmylife/friends/bullies/ (Also in Spanish)

http://www.mcgruff.org/Advice/bullies.php

If you think your child may b

your child is the bully

e the bully, visit http://www.pacer.org/parent/php/PHP-c109.pdf

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SEE SOMETHING, SAY SOMETHING

Tue, 13 Jul 2010 18:09:52 -0700

SIMPLY SAID, SEE SOMETHING, SAY SOMETHING.

Bo Jaxon Photo

Wed, 09 Jun 2010 15:06:34 -0700

Bo Jaxon Photo

CBS AND KCAL NEWS VISIT BULLY BASH DAY AND INTERVIEW HANNAH SZAKACSY

Fri, 04 Jun 2010 16:54:00 -0700

CBS AND KCAL NEWS VISIT BULLY BASH DAY AND INTERVIEW HANNAH SZAKACSY:

CLICK CBS TO SEE AN INTERVIEW WITH HANNAH SZAKACSY

Hannah speaks…a little.

Fri, 04 Jun 2010 16:44:46 -0700

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Hannah speaks…a little.

Doing our Bully Buddy Thing!

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Doing our Bully Buddy Thing!

Bo Jaxon from B95.1 comes to Bully Bash at Elmhurst Elementary.

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Bo Jaxon from B95.1 comes to Bully Bash at Elmhurst Elementary.